As women, we love to be sure that our men love us and want to be with us for all the good intentions in the world. But how can you tell if he is truly your ride or die or if he is keeping you around for sex and his selfish satisfaction? Not to burst the bubble, but most of us are just temporary fun, as we end up giving our heart and everything because we believe “He is the one.”
Knowing and recognizing the warning signs he is playing with you will save you time, self-doubt, and heartbreaks. So, if you ask yourself, ’is he using me? Then Read on as I share nine unchallenged signs that he has no strings attached and he’s using you for sex only.
- HE ONLY CALLS OR TEXTS YOU WHEN HE WANTS TO HOOK UP
This should seem obvious but can get tricky and ignored in the new passion and love phase. Always remember that a man that cares about you and has decided that you are his only will treat you like his confidant. He would want to share every piece of information about his day and life with you, not only call when he is horny and longs for sex.
- HE’S NOT INTERESTED IN WHAT GOES ON IN YOUR LIFE
Think about the love your family, friends, or anyone you trust the show to you. The things that matter in your life are their priority, and they show much interest and concern. If your man calls or texts you and shows no concern about the things going on with you, asks no questions, and does not encourage or motivate you to accomplish the things you have planned, then he is with you for sex only.
- EVERY CONVERSATION WITH HIM TURNS SEXUAL OR FLIRTY
Reflect on the conversations you mostly have with him. Is it about love, concern, or plans? If no, and it always goes along the lines of, ‘’what you have on tonight,’’ ‘’how much do you want me, baby,’’ and so on, then this man only got you for sex. Even when you take the initiative to talk about genuine feelings or other productive topics, he puts you off to discuss sexy issues.
- HE GETS ANNOYED IF YOU DON’T WANT TO HAVE SEX
A man with genuine intentions for you will always respect your decisions and timing. He will not pressure you or make you feel bad for turning him off sexually. Whether to have sex or not is your decision alone, and you should never be forced or pressured to show your love to anyone in that manner. Of course, the pain and disappointment when left hanging out to dry by your woman are understandable. But whenever he gets annoyed or acts funny because you don’t want to have sex is questionable and should not be tolerated.
- YOUR DATES ARE ALWAYS IN HIS HOUSE OR A HOTEL OR LODGE
As cliché as it may sound, ask yourself, “why is he only inviting me to private locations and not showing off to the world?” A healthy relationship balances private and social life. Always keeping you indoors means you are probably a side chick, and he only wants to sleep with you. You might want to give him some benefit of the doubt and assume because he is broke, busy an introvert or any other excuse. There is no reason why your man should only want to see you in his house, hotel, or lodge.
- HE IS ALWAYS TOO BUSY UNAVAILABLE, AND UNREACHABLE
A man who truly loves you will always check up on you. If he can go a whole day without reaching out or returning your calls because of his busy schedule, just know this man has not devoted himself to you and might only be with you to appease his sexual desires.
- HIS COMPLIMENTS ARE ONLY ON YOUR LOOKS OR APPEARANCE
Another warning sign that he’s using you for sex only is he only compliments you on your looks or appearance. Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong if your man compliments your look sexually, but every time? That’s the problem. Occasionally he should tell you something beyond your appearance. Like, your personality, your cooking, and your hard work. It proves that he pays attention to you and what you are up to.
- HE DOESN’T CARE ABOUT YOUR SEXUAL PLEASURE.
A good indicator that your man loves you back and what’s to keep you for reasons other than sex is when he wants to satisfy himself and meet your needs in bed. He listens to your likes and dislikes and puts considerable effort into delivery. Much time is also spent on foreplay.
- HE DOESN’T INTRODUCE YOU TO HIS FRIENDS
Another way to know if you’re a man is planning a life with you and not just having fun with you is when he introduces you to his close circle. If you have been with him for a while now but still have no idea whom he hangs out with other than you, then you have a reason to be worried.
