According to a study by Joseph Grenny, co-author of Crucial Conversations, couples who discuss tricky topics effectively are 10 times more likely to have a happy relationship than those who ignore difficult subjects. Talking about sexual intimacy can be tricky sometimes but it’s so necessary.
If you haven’t learned by now, communication is key! It’s pivotal in all relationships and especially needed in the bedroom. Whether you’re eager to try new things in the bedroom or need answers to burning sex questions, sitting down and having these hard conversations with your partner is needed.
Below we provided 8 sex topics every person should have with their partner. No topic is off limits and the more you know, the better!
Exclusivity
Never assume, always communicate. If you’re comfortable enough to lay down with someone then you should also feel comfortable enough to discuss if you all are exclusive or not.
Make sure you’re on the same page and only do what makes you feel comfortable and what’s best for you. Don’t let anyone pressure you into a situation you don’t want to be in.
Future Plans
Sometimes finding time to have sex can be a challenge! You and your partner might have a busy schedule and feel drained once you’re home from work. Let’s face reality, you might need to talk about fitting sex into your busy schedule.
Maybe quickies once a week should be incorporated? If one of you is a morning sex person and the other an evening sex person, compromise a schedule to please both parties.
Feedback
We all need a little feedback and feedback in the bedroom is helpful for both parties involved. Talk about what turns you on and what doesn’t. Use words and phrases that can help the conversation go smoothly like, “I love when you do this and would also like if you do this!”
Safe Words
Things can get a little wild in the bedroom and it’s important to discuss boundaries. Talk about what type of activities you’re comfortable with in the bedroom.
Choose a safe word, one unrelated to sex either of you can say to pause what’s happening. I know you saw “50 Shades of Grey,” stop playing!
Fantasies & Desires
If you like bondage, whips, oils, etc. then let your partner know that! Why keep it a secret? Bring your wildest desires and fantasies to life.
Sexual History
Listen, STD’s are real. Whether you’re wrapping it up or raw dogging, sexual history NEEDS to be the first topic of conversation.
Your body is a temple and health is wealth. Make sure your partner knows that getting tested is important and once you know everything is in the clear the sex will be even better.
Likes & Dislikes Of Your Body
Everyone has insecurities and a lot of people unknowingly suffer from body dysmorphia. Trust your partner enough to be open about the likes and dislikes of your body and how you both can make it comfortable for one another in the bedroom.
When You Feel The Sexiest
Tap into that alter-ago and let your sexiness show. If you feel the sexiest when music is playing in the background or with candles lit, verbalize that. Ask your partner when they feel the sexiest and try to meet each other’s needs.
